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When Hostess Says No Gifts, Does That Really Mean No Gifts?

Ask a Savvy Bride: Should I Bring a Gift When She Said No Gifts?

Wedding etiquette can be tricky. If you have a dilemma like the one below, be sure to ask our Savvy Bride for help in the Ask Savvy group.

Dear Savvy,

A very close friend of mine has been married for six years. They are an amazing couple and I love them both dearly. I don't know if this is a new trend or what, but they've caught the renewing their vows bug; and they do it every year! While I love the opportunity to see old friends and have a good time in their honor, it seems a bit much, not to mention expensive when you factor in giving a gift every year. I just received their invitation for this year's extravaganza, and for the first time, they said no gifts; but isn't it tacky not to bring at least a little something?
Unsure Sally

To see the Savvy Bride's advice, read more.

Savvy Bride says:

I'm a big proponent of never attending a party empty-handed, especially a wedding, but if someone specifically requests no gifts, I think it's OK to make an exception to the rule. Since this couple has renewed their vows six times already, I think it's fair to sit this one out. If you're totally against going empty-handed, making a donation in their name to a charity seems like a sweet alternative — it's really a gift for both of you. I might take a different approach to this question if it was a milestone anniversary, but if you've ever wanted to sit a year out, this is your year!


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