My best friend and I have known each other for 7 yrs and have been through everything together. I'm an only child with parents who have been in a position to help me out by paying for school, buying nice presents, taking me shopping etc... I know how lucky I am to have them and I truly am grateful for it. My best friend comes from a broken family, owes tons in student loans and buys things she can't afford because they make her feel better. While I truly sympathize and think it sucks that she got such a raw deal, she's started to make snide comments about "kids who have everything and don't appreciate it" and even some things targeted at me directly. I've always tried to be understanding towards her but it happens so frequently that I'm sick of hearing about it and I'm sick of feeling badly. If she plans on holding the fact that my education has been paid for against me for the rest of my life, we're going to have problems. Life isn't easy for me either in different ways. It's taken me 6 years to graduate from college and I've struggled to get there. I'm graduating in 5 weeks and I don't want to mess anything up this close to the end. I guess my question is: What is the best way to avoid my best friend for a while? I don't want to cut her off completely. I really do love her and I know if I say something mean we won't speak again, but I really don't have time for her 45 min phone calls about why her life sucks. Any advice for how to handle the situation? Frustrated Friend
Dear Frustrated Friend
Talk with her and say the following. People generally can only locate problems for themselves, and money seems to be her problem. So as she sees it, if she could just fix her money problem, then all of her woes would be solved. But there's no guarantee that she would live a perfect life. She's not realizing that other people have their own problems that don't necessarily revolve around money. So for her to assume that your life is perfect just because you have money is wrong. Everyone's got their own issues. What she also needs to remember is that things could always be worse. Her worst day is someone else's best day. At least she's in college. Tell her to stop barking and be grateful for the wonderful things she does have in life.